You see, one of the major premises of the book is that every guy in regards to the women in his life, has a plan. When he comes up to you in a bar, he has a plan (usually it involves getting laid). When he asks you out on that first, second, or third date, there’s a plan involved. When he takes you home to meet mama, that’s part of a plan. Now that sounds all well and logical, but here’s my issue with it: most of the guys I know can barely plan what they’re going to wear tomorrow or what they’re doing Friday night, and you expect me to believe that they have a plan for every single woman they meet?
If the plan is simply, “get her into bed” I can believe that. Unless he’s gay, I assume that every man that approaches me in a bar wants to have sex with me. Not because I’m such hot stuff that every man in the world wants to sleep with me, but because I have the requisite parts to give them at least a halfway decent time. But, I find it hard to believe that one a second or third date that a man already has a plan in place, assuming that plan does not involve some Barry White and clothes coming off. And maybe that’s part of my problem with dating, why I’m not currently in a loving, stable relationship (it may also have something to do with why I’m skeptical of conspiracy theories). Maybe my disbelief has made me miss major signs that a guy is or isn’t right for me. I’ll have to consult my chorus of guy friends to see what they think.
What about you? Do you think every man has a plan, even beyond the “get sex” default? Or is that always the plan and it just involves different tactics? And when does the plan become, “make this woman my girlfriend/fiance/wife”? Does it ever, or does it just simply happen? So many questions!